What Not To Say During an Intervention

Topics to Avoid During an Intervention

Loving an addict or alcoholic is hard enough, but when your loved one doesn't recognize the impact his or her addiction has, it may be time to stage an intervention.

Interventions take time and planning, and are not something you should do on the spur of the moment. If not carefully executed, an intervention can spiral out of control and make the situation worse for both you and the addict in your life.

Perhaps one of the most important things during an intervention is remembering what not to do. That's why we've gathered a list of things to avoid during an intervention to give your loved one the best chance at recognizing his or her problem and moving forward with treatment.

Avoid Past Fights

If every time a specific thing comes up, it causes an angry outburst, don't bring it up during the intervention. It's important for those hosting and partaking in the event to remain calm and upbeat. Once angry words start being spoken, an intervention quickly loses its purpose — causing resentment and hostility instead of love and encouragement.

Shameful Information

An intervention is not the time to shame someone into going to treatment, so don't bring up shameful or embarrassing situations. Instead of taking about the negative, shower your loved one with compassion and concern, encouraging him or her because you love them and are worried. Guilt will never get someone through the road to recovery, but love and support will.


Yes, your loved one may have stolen from you, but an intervention is not the time to confront him or her about it. An intervention is designed to confront the addiction, not the person, and is one of the things that many people have the most difficulty with.


Just like it's not the place for a confrontation, an intervention should not be the place to threaten someone into treatment. Recovery and treatment must be a personal decision. As someone who cares about the individual suffering from addiction, it's your job to support him or her, not threaten them to do what you want.